How do you see others around you?
New York Times columnist David Brooks said “Many of our society’s great problems flow from people not feeling seen and known. … [There is a] core … trait that we all have to get … better at[, and that] is the trait of seeing each other deeply and being deeply seen.”
Today I taught a virtual church class about how we see and look at others around us. This does not mean we change the way we physically see them, but more of a way to understand and perceive others better.
In order to see others more fully and deeply we need to see ourselves better. To me that means truly understanding that we are all children of God. As we realize that fact ourselves, it becomes easier to see others in that same light.
When our children were little we would ask them to clean their rooms only to find that they only put away an item or two before telling us they were done. Finally my wife would ask them, “Did you look at the room with mommy’s eyes?” Meaning did they look at things in the way that mom would look at them when she comes to check the room. Over time the rooms did get a little cleaner. 🙂
What if we looked at each others through God’s eyes? What if we tried to see people like Jesus Christ sees them?
In my lesson I asked how we can do this? And these are some of the answers I got: Listen to them (not just with your ears but with your heart), have patience, love them, and be consistent.
It was also mentioned that we ourselves have to be in tune with the spirit of God in order to see as he sees. Things like prayer, reading the scriptures, thinking and doing good things, developing positive habits can put us in a position where we feel better about ourselves and then can see others deeper and understand better their needs.
Let’s all try and make a conscious effort to gives others the benefit of the doubt, not judge, but be willing to have eyes to see like God. Eyes full of understanding, love, and patience.
Think about what you can do in your life to be in a better position to do so.
You just might find a new way to see the world!
To read a full talk about Eyes to See by Michelle Craig go here.